29 Mar 2012 - 18:30

London

Where:

In the Basement Bar:

Provocative Style workshop

Take this opportunity to experience the Provocative Style of coaching – which is irreverent, high-impact and always hilarious. If you are coming to have your beliefs reinforced you’ll really enjoy having those expectations pleasantly violated. And isn’t that what great attraction is about – violating people’s expectations? (That really hot person turns out to be actually quite deep – wow!)

Well that’s the gist of the Provocative Style – to find a way to be yourself, congruent, strong, capable, funny, insightful; and sharing that with the world in a way that makes you and people around you feel comfortable. Relaxed. Aroused. Inspired. Confused? Good.

Instead of giving you long lists of To-Do’s and What-Not-To-Do’s, structures, rules and general boredom, you’ll get a personal experience and an opportunity to develop your own style. You’ll work on your own strengths and try it out right there, getting feedback from other single people.

It’s a slightly different format from past events, but you can see a testimonial from a previous night at LVPO here:  http://www.provocativestyle.com/2012/01/sues-testimonial/

Format for the evening

Arrival and sparkling wine reception – 6:30pm – Arrive. Lift glass. Put drink in your face. Smile. Chat.

Welcome chat and introduction – 7pm – This is where I explain what makes me think I’m qualified to teach this stuff. It’s a reasonable question. I’ve developed some skills after many years of stumbling around and doing it wrong. There are some funny stories.

Open discussion and group coaching – 7:30pm This is where interested people will get the chance to air their issues and questions, to challenge me (I do have some pretty outrageous beliefs) and the rest of the room, to offer your opinions or ask for their guidance. That might be something like “How to walk up to someone and start a conversation” or “How can I tell if someone’s interested?” or “What does it mean when…” – which among boys and girls always makes for a hilarious debate.

This part will allow you an opportunity to seek guidance on the physical, vocal and personal side of seduction – which to me is mostly about confidence (Proper, congruent confidence – not that ‘pretend you’re awesome despite the evidence’ kind, which is actually probably just arrogance). You can, if you chose to, develop your style of walking, talking, holding eye-contact, shaking hands (and other physical contact). I can also share with you some of my favourite tricks (for men or women). To get that, you will need to ask.

Drinks and snacks break – 8:30 Have a mingle, nom some canapés, chat with other flirters, make friends and meet potential lovers, all the while practicing some of the new ideas that you have forming in your gorgeous head. It is a great chance to engage someone on the topics we’ve been discussing – ‘cos talking about flirting, romance and sex is a great way to get those three things.

Language games – 9:30 Some fun tricks, misread innuendos and flirtatious repartee. Challenges, feedback and fun – this is the fun part of having a Provocative Style. Try out some of your tricks and get feedback, learn new ways to talk, get more feedback and find new ways to pique someone’s interest. You’ll do this part in very informal, chatty groups.

Unleash the hounds 10:30 - Move up out of the basement bar and into the ‘general public’ of drinkers in the LVPO Bar to try out your new things. Wing(man and woman) for one another, move in packs or go it solo, hunt down prey and play with them. I’ll be wandering around and available for private discussion and coaching, as a wingman, to offer feedback or compete in a boat race.

For the uber-organised and detail-driven among you: This ‘schedule’ is really a loose gist of what’s going to be happening, and if you’re going to get all funny about timing and stuff then you’re going to get all funny. And by ‘funny’ I don’t mean actually like fun ‘ha ha lets laugh and maybe touch rude parts later ‘cos I’m connecting with you’, I mean ‘funny’ like when people say “I don’t mean to be funny or anything” and then get all snarky and very much the opposite of funny. If there is something you’d like to cover, then you can consider this to be your license to declare open season on question asking and problem posing. Make opportunities for yourself and all that personal empowerment jazz.

So sign up below!

You’ll need to pay £25 per ticket – which you can pay now with PayPal, or by bank transfer (you’ll need to ask for my details). I’ll send you a quick questionnaire to get an idea of who you are and what you want from the evening so I can tailor the whole event to suit your needs. I will endeavour to maintain an even Girl/Guy ratio.